I know, I know, Christmas posts are so 2 days ago. But I have one last one to share anyway.
On Christmas Day, one of my sister's called me to fill me in on the lovely family drama that I was missing out on. I won't share the gory details here, but I will say that I'm happy I wasn't there. I miss my family and I would love to see them, but if that means subjecting myself to insanity, well, I would rather love them from afar. I don't mean to sound cruel. We just don't do well when we all get together. One on one is much better.
Anyway, my sister did share something positive with me as well. She got my mom to promise she would start counseling by February, even if just to placate us. I don't even know what to think of it at this point, but I will say it's the best present I got this year. For now I'm just going to wait and see what actually happens. I don't want to get my hopes up just to be disappointed.
Although, because of all the drama that came up, I am more aware than ever of just how deep her denial is. One of my sisters was talking about the physical abused she endured at the hands of her father, and my mom made the comment that all she remembered was a couple swats on the butt. She said she didn't remember any of the instances my sister was describing. This is really mind-boggling to me. This is not something that had been done privately or behind closed doors. We all saw it happen.
This also got me thinking that I was in my own denial about the physical abuse for awhile. I didn't deny that those things happened, but I labeled it differently. Even during the court case, I never would have said any of us were physically abused. Part of this is because I did not experience as much of it first hand as my sisters did. Also, we were taught that it was just discipline. We were told our grandma and grandpa spanked our aunts and uncles, and surely they wouldn't do anything evil. But this wasn't just spanking. It was done in anger and done viciously, often for minor offenses.
It's no wonder my family has drama.
Now on to the "2010 In Review" post.
Rachel
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